What anger is has been sufficiently explained. The difference between it and irascibility is evident: it is the same as that between a drunken man and a drunkard; between a frightened man and a coward. It is possible for an angry man not to be irascible; an irascible man may sometimes not be angry. I shall omit the other varieties of anger, which the Greeks distinguish by various names, because we have no distinctive words for them in our language, although we call men bitter and harsh, and also peevish, frantic, clamorous, surly and fierce: all of which are different forms of irascibility. Among these you may class sulkiness, a refined form of irascibility; for there are some sorts of anger which go no further than noise, while some are as lasting as they are common: some are fierce in deed, but inclined to be sparing of words: some expend themselves in bitter words and curses: some do not go beyond complaining and turning one’s back: some are great, deep-seated, and brood within a man: there are a thousand other forms of a multiform evil. Seneca, On Anger 1.4
Short temper? Hurting others? Trouble controlling emotions?
Anger, sometimes, is healthy, and it may help you think more rationally. However, frequent episodes of losing temper can create havoc in your life.
Do you face trouble when trying to control your anger? Is anger a chronic emotion to express your feelings? Then the chances are, you’re harming yourself and people around you.
Here is a list of 5 harmful effects of anger, and why you need to stay calm.
- Bad Physical Health
The moments, when you like your blood is boiling, increase the stress level in your body, leading to serious health issues like high blood pressure, raised stroke, and increased heart rate.
Chronic series of anger can lead to severe health conditions such as heart attack, insomnia, tension headache, and weak immune system. Poor health conditions can lead to a short life span.
- Worse Mental Health
Various studies link stress and anxiety to lose temper and aggression. Though anger is not the sole cause of depression, people suffering from depression tend to be more aggressive. It causes worse anxiety, specifically when you have low self-esteem, and you regret being angry.
Hurting your loved ones, as a result of losing temper, leads to an increased level of stress and anxiety. So, it’s better to control anger.
- Impaired Judgement
Where anger affects your mental health, your cognitive abilities also get impaired. Your emotions get escalated quickly, hindering your analytical thinking capabilities, and you feel more prejudiced about others.
Anger forces you to do things that you may not prefer in a normal situation. When your focus becomes unclear, it leads to the wrong and unhealthy decision making that you may regret later.
- Broken Relationships
Expressing anger through verbal or physical aggression- getting angry at people around you, leads to broken relationships. Uncontrolled anger impacts your way of treating people who are close to you, and you may experience hurt or fear of losing someone.
Constant screaming and yelling at someone leads to lack of trust and triggers feelings of guilt. Moreover, you also start losing your sense of humor and happiness, which brings negative impact on your relationships.
- Underestimated Self Esteem
“Anger is nothing more than a superficial feeling of fear, hurt and frustration.”, says Phil McGraw.
Being in a constant state of anger makes you think that you’re a bad and immoral person, and you trigger the shame reaction. When you have chronic anger, you start questioning your self and feelings of self-rejection become intense.
When responding to your own emotional conditions, you start questioning yourself like:
What is wrong with me?
Does anybody want to be with me?
Am I bad? Why people leave me alone when I am angry?
Anger not only lowers your self-esteem but you also start hating and rejecting yourself. You start losing self-confidence and self-belief.
Thus, in order to avoid all these harmful impacts, you need to control your temper or express it in healthy ways such as going for a run.